One of my coworkers, during a meeting, just accidentally misgendered another coworker who's non-binary. They gently corrected the mistake and moved on, which was fine, but the manner of misgendering made me wonder how best he should've addressed them.

He was trying to give them a compliment on their new haircut. What he said was "Girl, you're rocking that look!"

They corrected him saying, "Not girl, 'they', but in response to your other question ..."

If they were a woman, "Girl!" would've been a culturally appropriate way to address them in this circumstance. If they were a man, "Dude!" might've been more appropriate. So, what's the appropriate (at least in the US) non-binary alternative in this circumstance? Obviously, he could've just used their name, which would've worked well enough, but doesn't quite carry the same weight as the gendered alternatives.

I need the Internet to settle an argument.

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I've got a a / question.

I understand how self-verification works in Mastodon.

But I'm trying to figure out how the federation of it works. In other words, how does instance A know which links are verified for a profile on instance B.

When I look at the AP profile (curl masto.tld/users/jimmy -H 'Accept: application/activity+json'), I get something like:

"attachment": [                                                {
            "name": "Personal Site",
            "type": "PropertyValue",
            "value": "<a href=\"https://something.tld\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer me\"
><span class=\"invisible\">https://</span><span class=\"\">
something.tld</span><span class=\"invisible\"></span></a>"

But I don't see anything anywhere else in the JSON that indicates that that value is verified.

Is there a separate endpoint to check that?